Fr. Ron Rolheiser, omi


April 10, 2000

In her biography, The Long Loneliness, Dorothy Day shares how, shortly after her conversion to Catholicism, she went through a painful, desert time. She had just given birth to her daughter and her decision to have the child baptized, coupled with her profession of faith, meant the end of her relationship with a man she deeply loved.

She suddenly found herself alone. All her old supports had been cut off and she was left with no money, no job, few friends, no practical dream and no companionship from the person she loved the most deeply in this world. For a while she just stumbled on, trusting that things would soon get better. They didn't. She remained in this desert.

One day, not knowing what else to do, she took a train from New York to Washington to spend a day praying at the National Shrine of Our Lady. Her prayer there was wrenching, naked. She describes how she laid bare her helplessness, spilling out her confusion, her doubts, her fears, and her temptations to bitterness and despair.

In essence, she said to God: "I have given up everything that ever supported me, in trust, to you. I have nothing left. You need to do something for me, soon. I can't keep this up much longer."

She was, biblically speaking, in the desert – alone, without support, helpless before a chaos that threatened to overwhelm her – and, as was the case with Jesus, both in the desert and in Gethsemane, God "sent angels to minister to her." God steadied her in the chaos. She returned to New York and, that night, as she walked up to her apartment she saw a man sitting there. His name was Peter Maurin. Together they started the Catholic Worker.

We should not be surprised that her prayer had such a tangible result. The desert, Scripture assures us, is the place where God is especially near.

Martin Luther King shares a similar story. In Stride Towards Freedom, he relates how one night a hate-filled phone call plunged him into a desert of fear. Here are his words:

"An angry voice said: 'Listen, nigger, we've taken all we want from you; before next week you'll be sorry you ever came to Montgomery.' I hung up, but I couldn't sleep. It seemed that all of my fears had come down on me at once. I had reached the saturation point. I got out of bed and began to walk the floor. Finally I went to the kitchen and heated a pot of coffee. I was ready to give up.

"With my coffee sitting untouched before me I tried to think of a way to move out of the picture without appearing a coward. In this state of exhaustion, when my courage had all but gone, I decided to take my problem to God. With my head in my hand, I bowed over the kitchen table and prayed aloud. The words I spoke to God that midnight are still vivid in my memory.

"'I am here taking a stand for what I believe is right. But now I am afraid. The people are looking to me for leadership and if I stand before them without strength and courage, they too will falter. I am at the end of my powers. I have nothing left. I've come to the point where I can't take it alone.' At that moment I experienced the presence of the Divine as I had never experienced him before."

God sends his angels to minister to us when we are in the desert and in the garden of Gethsemane. This incident in Martin Luther King's life shows how.

The desert, as we know, is the place where, stripped of all that normally nourishes and supports us, we are exposed to chaos, raw fear and demons of every kind. In the desert we are exposed, made vulnerable to be overwhelmed by chaos and temptations of every kind. But, because we are so stripped of everything we normally rely on, this is also a privileged moment for grace.

Why? Because all the defence mechanisms, support systems and distractions that we normally surround ourselves with so as to keep chaos and fear at bay work at the same time to keep much of God's grace at bay. What we use to buoy us up wards off both chaos and grace, demons and the divine alike.

Conversely, when we are helpless we are open. That is why the desert is both the place of chaos and the place of God's closeness. It is no accident that Dorothy Day and Martin Luther King felt God's presence so unmistakably at that point where they had lost everything that could support them. They were in the desert. Scripture assures us that it is there that God can send angels to minister to us.